Good relationship

It is important to have a good relationship established with mutual understanding between you and your parents. Parents have brought you up since you were born, provided you with your basic necess ties and education, so they tend to continue to see their children as small babies although they gradually grow up. They continue to look after them. Actually they are no longer small babies. Parents should see things as they are. Their children are now the young people who will become grown-ups soon. The parents teenagers actually need are not the ones who manage and control, but the ones who guide and negotiate

To reduce the gap between parents and children

Although it seems impossible that teenagers and their parents are getting along, if they try to have mutual understanding to each other, they can establish good relationship.

To establish a good relationship, parents can show interest in their teenage children affairs, but need to be careful not to be considered too curious by their children. Avoid telling bad things about their friends as much as possible. Welcome their friends coming around and serve them with something good to eat. By doing this, parents can keep an eye on their children without making them feel that their parents are looking over their shoulder.

Parents should not invade their teenage children’s privacy. They should avoid doing things like opening their private letters, cutting off their phone conversations and searching their rooms. But parents have to try to know what their children are doing and where they are going. Only then they can guide them to be on the right track. Parents should not force their children to do what they want them to do. Listen to the teenage children’s feelings. Show respect to their opinions. Spend time to talk to them. When there is an issue to argue between parents and children, choose a suitable time and try to negotiate to find a solution.  

What can teenagers do to get along with their parents?

Put yourself in your parents’ shoes. You need to understand that the disciplines, rules and guidance set by your parents are not for them, but only for your future. You also need to know that your parents’ restrictions are imposed with good reasons and with an aim to shield you from dangers and harm. 

How you should respond when a disagreement arise?

Avoid confrontation, arguing and taking back cheekily.

Don’t make decisions while you are ruoused up, get angry or lose your temper.

When your parents are furious, just be patient and wait until they calm down.

Try to have an open discussion only when both sides calm down. 

If necessary, wait for suitable time and circumstance and request your parents to spare some time for you to talk to them.

Try to understand the feeling and opinions of both sides through discussions and negotiations.

Take time to build trust of your parents in you.

Don’t abuse and lose your parents’ trust.